The relationship you have with yourself.

                   Being a young adult, with all of the pressures in this society; makes it very easy for you to not like yourself. It makes you feel as though you are never good enough or doing enough, someone is always doing more than you and doing better than you. We compare ourselves to our peers and our friends, and can't help but think that were falling behind, that we should have this job, or characteristic, or relationship. I don't know why it has become so incredibly easy for us to hate ourselves.
          Once you start this cycle of telling yourself that you're ugly, or stupid, or not good enough, it's difficult to break that routine. It becomes normal to you, it becomes something that you think will motivate you to better yourself, but it is far from a motivating habit. You need to remember how important the relationship you have with yourself is. In case you have forgotten, you are the only person who is always going to be there for you. You can't depend on other people for self-worth. Because of these facts, you should make the effort to build yourself up whenever you need to. Telling yourself that you're fat, or that you're an idiot, aren't healthy ways to motivate you to better yourself. You need to always be on your side. How do you think you're ever going to accomplish anything if the first person putting you down is yourself? You can't tell yourself that you aren't capable of things, or that you're always going to have bad luck, or that you aren't meant to do great things-get all of this noise out of your head, because it's ridiculous. You're never going to give yourself a chance to do amazing things, if you shut yourself down all of the time.
        I know how easy it is to strip yourself down so you can only see the bad in you, I have trouble with doing it myself, and see so many young people do the same. We allow our minds to think that positive things don't even exist in our lives anymore, because we let the negative have such a huge impact on us. But you need to try to rewire your brain. It sounds impossible, I get that, but it isn't. This is all you have to do: when you feel the need for a self-loathing session, give yourself a compliment instead. It isn't easy to stop yourself, but you can do it. And no matter who you are, there are things you can find that you like about yourself and your life. Whether it be your supportive parents, the group of friends you have, or your health. I've said this before on here, but you should always know in the back of your mind that you probably have a lot more than you deserve. I'm not going to try to make you grateful with, "There are so many people worse off than you, without homes and their families and their health." because even though I know it's the truth and it should make you grateful, when someone says that to me it only makes me feel worse. But maybe that's just me. When it's hard for you to be grateful for the physical things, you can always turn to the emotional ones. The characteristics and tendencies that you have inside yourself, are things that only you have. You are important(Can't help but think of To Write Love on Her Arms), you are special, and you matter, because of these things. Whether it be your good heart, your motivation, your willingness to help people, your ability to pick up on things easily, your great music taste, your quick wit, your honesty, or your passion for absolutely anything. You can find many traits that you like within yourself. Although it can be very easy to dwell in the negative, make an effort to make the relationship you have with yourself a positive one. You can be your biggest supporter; and you need to be the person who forces you achieve your goals, and live out your dreams. You are capable of so much more than you think you are, give yourself the credit that you deserve. Don't compare yourself to others, compare yourself to the person you aspire to be. And don't hate yourself if you aren't there yet; because you have an entire lifetime to become that person.

Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you. -Oscar Wilde